Everyone has a little narcissism in them, whether it be a sense of entitlement, haughtiness or a lack of concern for others. However, some people have these traits in excess. These individuals may have narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), which is a mental condition characterized by an inflated sense of one’s own importance.
Only 1% of the population is diagnosed with NPD, but it is likely that the true number of people with this condition is much closer to 15-20%. Within the general umbrella of NPD, there are several types of narcissist, such as the grandiose narcissist, who uses charisma to manipulate, or the vulnerable narcissist, who has a victimization mindset and is often angry.
Narcissism can destroy relationships and families by creating patterns of poor communication, unclear boundaries, control issues and more. These patterns can also leave lasting damage to individuals, causing self-loathing or distrust. With this in mind, it may be important to separate yourself from narcissistic relationships.
If you need to distance yourself from a narcissist, your first step should be making a clear and thoughtful plan. It is vital that you do not alert the narcissist to your plans. Make arrangements while the narcissist is away, and move slowly to avoid detection.
As you plan, it is critical to consider money, important documents, contact information and safety. When it comes to money, you will want to slowly move your money to a separate account. Similarly, it is important to print copies of important financial documents, make a new will and get rid of bills not in your name. Creating new contact information is also useful, as it allows you to make a clean break from the narcissist. Finally, remember that your friends and family can provide support and safety throughout the process; it is a good idea to let them know when you plan to leave.
Although narcissism can feel all-consuming in families, there are ways to escape its toxicity. Pay attention to the signs of narcissism, and be prepared to make a plan if you find yourself in an unsafe relationship.
